Why does it seem like everything happens all at once? Like everything falls apart at one time? You start to feel like you are being tested, like you are being pushed to the edge. And sometimes it's a combination. Things start falling apart while you are planning other life changing events. So everything needs your attention all at the same time. You never know where to turn first. You don't know what the right answer is. You don't want to react too quickly but you don't want to wait too long to react. Everyone is trying to be aware of each other's feelings. People are afraid of seeming selfish, even though this might be the time they need to be just that, selfish! It's just not the best timing. But that's not your fault.
Is it really possible to be there for others and also be able to focus on what you need to do for yourself at the same time? I'm sure most of the time it is possible. But sometimes, in order to do that you need to make tough decisions. Let people be mad, or upset at you for your decisions that they don't understand. And when they are over it you can all get back to your other issues and just be there for each other.
Is it okay to put yourself first every now and then? Most of us don't think so. Mothers and wives always, or almost always put others first. It's just a habit. Eventually, you need to start somewhere and just do something for yourself. Unfortunately, the time that you may need to do it, may not be the best time for everyone else, but it may be the best time for YOU!
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