Siblings...Ugh!!!

Where do you start. Most of us can't stand our brothers and sisters when we are growing up. We fight, scream, kick, punch and try to hurt each other as much as we can when we are little. Why? Who knows. Isn't that what you are supposed to do? Fighting for attention, pissed off that the other one is alive. You really don't need a reason to go off when you're young. You will rat each other out for the littlest thing and help each other get into trouble. As long as you clean up the blood, your parents don't want to hear about it!

If you are lucky, as you grow up you may start to form a tolerable relationship with your brothers and sister. Be able to sit in the same room without punching and kicking. Have a conversation at the table without name calling and screaming. You may actually agree on things and maybe even watch tv together. Separate ends of the room of course. You pay take rides from each other to the mall or movies. You will need each other and out of necessity, you will kind of get along.

Maybe, just maybe, as you become a young adult you will become friends with your brother and sister. Crazy to think, but it may happen. Hang out together. Call each other for advice. Go out to dinner. Plan a trip to see the parents together. Rely on each other. You don't even realize it's even happening. Sometimes this won't happen until there is an event in your life. Someone gets married. Someone has a baby. Graduates from college. Some day you may even need each other so much, you don't know what you did with out them. You come to rely on each other just to get through the day. You need to know they are there for you. You and them have been through the same situation and can relate. And that will bring you to a level of closeness that couldn't have been achieved without that tragedy.

But like everything in life, these relationships usually have a cycle also. And the day will come when these relationships will start to fade. They each will fall into their own level. Ones you were super close with, they will start to slip away. Ones you were so so with, they might remain the same, but seem strained. Ones you were getting through things with, they might seem to feel like you are losing them again. And it might take another tragedy to get you back together. But you are brother and sister. And hopefully that bond will keep you always and forever in each others hearts.