Wednesday, February 16, 2011

They are called your ex just like it's called your past

No one gets into a relationship thinking "This is only gonna last a few weeks and then I'm out." And most of the time when it ends, one of you, if not both of you are devastated. The sadness can last for a few weeks or you can carry it for years. Some people constantly carry with them doubts or "what if's". What if you gave them that one last chance? What if I just held out a little longer? Maybe he would have changed. You punish yourself with these constant thoughts and never fully move on. You can't really move on until you get your answers. Or atleast get confirmation that the decision you made was the right one.

Sometimes when a relationship comes to an end, you can be so blinded by anger or resentment that you just have no feeling at all. And you question yourself as to why this isn't bothering you. Why don't you feel bad that he's crying? Why don't you want to hug him back? Why can't you say I love you? Why don't you want to give it another try? Why? Is it because you constantly gave them the chance to fix things? You could be tired of your feelings being ignored and over time you have just become numb. Once you get to that point there is no coming back. You are emotionally bankrupt and that's a scary place to be. 

You almost get to the point that during the break up, the separation of your lives, everything that you have intertwined together over the years, that you feel sorry for the other person. Not enough to change your mind, or to the point where you want to hug them and say you're sorry. But feel bad that they still have no clue what they did wrong. Feel bad that they think that they did nothing wrong. Feel bad that they think they are perfect. Feel bad that they will never figure it out. But for some unknown reason you will still try to be civil, even though he will cuss and name call and get evil. You will not lower yourself. You will still try to make the whole process painless and easy. You will try to give him an easy start in his new life because that's just how you are.

Yet he will continue to make you miserable and do everything in his power to punish you. Still not seeing that he is doing anything wrong. Still accusing you of being the problem. All the while you are the one who left, he was the one begging you to stay. 

Just remember, he is an Ex for a reason. You made the Right decision. And it's called the Past because it's in the Past!

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